Thankful

Bryan is pretty much the opposite of everything on my "list" for a husband. You know, that list girls have growing up of all the qualities they think they want in their future husband. Yeah, I had that list, too. Bryan doesn't fit many of those specifications. Obviously, he has the important ones down like, being a committed Christian, ministry-mindedness, and a family man. However, in his personality he is much more outgoing, confrontational, and outspoken than I ever imagined. He is a lot like my mom and I always pictured marrying someone more like my dad. More the strong, silent type. 

About eight months into our dating relationship I got to a point of really feeling torn. Should I break up with Bryan and continue pursuing someone that I thought would be more suited for me, or should I stick it out with Bryan, trusting that God brought him to me for a bigger purpose? I struggled with this question for a while. In my searching I sought much godly counsel and in the midst of it I realized something that changed my life and my perspective drastically. The list I had created years earlier and the mindset I had of marrying someone like my dad produced a mindset of wanting to marry myself. I wanted someone just like me. Those of you who know both my dad and I know that we are a lot alike. We're alike in so many different aspects it's sometimes weird to realize. With that said, as I walked through life I had an incredible respect for my dad and wanted to marry someone with similar qualities. However, God has taught me through Bryan that I would have had a way boring life if I married someone just like my dad, and thus just like me. 

Granted, Bryan and I have very drastic differences that are sometimes hard to reconcile, but I am so thankful for this passionate, outgoing, and confrontational man. I am so thankful for the way Bryan has strength where I have weakness and the way we complement each other in those areas. I am so thankful for his boldness and strong leadership in so many areas. I am so thankful for his love and support. I am so thankful God brought us together. I am one blessed wife. 




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